“Where There is a Will There is a Way” Wednesday

So I have been doing some internet research, and seeing as I am in week 3 of my post umbilical hernia surgery I should be able to start light running.  I need it, I miss it, I’m shocked I’m saying it.

It is funny how quickly you can miss something once a routine has been broken.  I found I was just getting to the point in my running where I was feeling empowered and starting to see some results from the activity.  Then my surgery got scheduled sooner than I expected.  I’ve recovered like a champ though.  I was back at work within 7 days, and away on vacation within 10.  I have no pain, but need to watch that I don’t over do things.  Running should be fine, provided I take a slower pace.

There are some pretty awesome things about having this surgery though.

  1. For the first time in my life I have a real innie belly button. (I can now realize my dream of becoming a swimsuit model, because I’m sure the belly button was my only barrier)
  2. I don’t cringe with pain if one of the cats or dogs accidentally touches my belly button
  3. I have a Dr.’s note that says I can’t do housework or laundry for 4 weeks! (I think this is my personal favourite)

R has been wonderful since my surgery.  On vacation he carried all of the luggage (I am not to lift more than 10 lbs) and he asks me numerous times a day how my tummy is. He has also kept up with the housework, and I have allowed it.  I will admit though, I had to take over the folding duty of the laundry.  He just doesn’t do it properly.

So today I am going to get back on the treadmill and get moving again.

Time to get back on!

Where there is a will there is a way!


Nourish Yourself and Your Relationship

It is hard to believe that we have arrived at the 6 month point since our approval for adoption placement; and nearly a year since we attended our first information session to begin our journey.

I’ll admit that once I came to this realization, I was disappointed.  I really believed that we would be one of those 2 month wait before we are matched kind of couples.  That being said, in the grand scheme of things there are others that have been waiting much longer.

Truthfully the time has flown by.  In the initial months I was a little obsessive compulsive checking my emails and thinking continuously about the prospect of a placement.  Then as I settled in, I started to realize that the best thing I could do would be to focus on myself and my relationship with R.  I’ve heard time and time again that everything changes once you have a child, and you will miss the “me” time and the couple time that you once had.  In theory I understand this, but at the same time when you want to be a parent so badly… it is well worth it.

The last few months R and I have been working on improving our fitness.

Hiking in Palm Canyon

We have really focused on what we are eating, and I have started up running again on a regular basis  (I’ve had a bit of a reprieve as I have been recovering from surgery).  The best part is that we are feeling great and seeing results!  We’ll be in tip top shape for our future baby in no time!

The other thing that we did in this month was to go away for a hot vacation.  I know this is a regular thing for most, but for R and I it was the first time we have done this in the 12 years we have been together.  Why you ask?  We have dogs, that we are very protective of and so because of our commitment to them we had adjusted our vacationing so that they can be included.  Our summers consist of camping mostly and stay-cations.   This year we chose to go to Palm Springs, CA.  It was an amazing recharge of our batteries, and a recharge on our relationship.

On the beach in Malibu, CA.

We spent terrific quality time together, started every morning with a long walk or we incorporated a hike later in the day.  It felt good to keep active, soak up some sun and just enjoy being together.

It reminded me of the importance of taking time to recharge. I think that is what our time waiting for our placement is all about, keeping connected and maintaining our identity as a couple.  It could be an easy trap for people to fall into… becoming that couple that is “waiting”.  I’ve noticed that now that we are six months in and have many activities on the go, the first question people ask is no longer, “Have you heard anything yet?”.  I think it is because I’m not wearing the wait on my face any longer, and I also think it is because it is not my sole topic of conversation.

I am o.k with that.  It doesn’t mean that I don’t want to be a Father any less desperately than I did before, it just means that I am taking the time to fill my cup and my soul so that when the time comes we will be the best parents we can be.  This is because we have taken the time to enrich ourselves so that we can enrich the life of our child.

My take away so far this year, is to take the time to nourish myself, my soul and nourish my relationship.

My best friend and partner in this journey