An interesting phenomenon is starting to happen. I’ve noticed that as people are either making their pregnancy announcements or introducing their new baby… I am getting a look.
The look is almost apologetic in nature, or as if to say.. “this must be hard for you, given you are waiting and all”. Others seem to be waiting for a dramatic flood of tears as I flop myself down and wail “When’s it my turn? Where is my baby?”. It won’t happen. I’m not Susan Lucci.
It is absolutely hard to hear when others are adding to their family. I would be lying if I said I didn’t have some version of the “When is it my turn?” thought. It doesn’t take away, however, from the joy I get seeing others so happy.
In an ideal world someone would step forward and say, “hey I’ll carry your baby for you”. Just think how much easier that would be than constantly worrying that I’ll miss a call, or checking my phone because I swear I felt it vibrate.
Pregnancy announcements and new babies are amazing. I can handle it. I can feel happy for you. I have not hit the tantrum phase yet, and I will not grab your baby and run. lol.
You just have to surrender to the universe, put out the good thoughts and know that the baby you are meant to love is possibly being created at this very moment. It could be anytime, it could be in six years.
I also have to realize it may also not happen. Whatever the scenario, R and I have a happy life. Being parents would just add to that happiness. Our relationship is not dependent on whether or not we have a child. We have built a strong foundation of nearly 13 years together. That foundation gives us the strength to wait.
For others, the frustration of trying to conceive or work through the adoption process can add a lot of stress to the relationship.. not everyone has the foundation we do to weather the storm.
We are good. You can tell me if you are expecting… I can handle it.