Crying on the street? No, there is something in my eye…

I’m currently in Toronto on business and took some time last night to wander the village.

Tourist shot
Tourist shot


As per usual it was all a buzz with action, people and the like. I like to get away and immerse myself in the hustle and bustle of a bigger city now and then, the energy can beintoxicating, while at the same time it makes me thankful for the quiet relaxed pace at home.

I took some time to browse through the massive Indigo store in Eaton Centre. Their children’s section is incredible… HUGE. I found a number of books that I’ve written down for when our baby arrives. They were children’s books that are reflective of what our family will be like.  I think that it is important to have these as a jumping point to address questions and normalize to an extent what it means to have two Dad’s.

Stella Brings The Family - By Miriam B. Schiffer
Stella Brings The Family – By Miriam B. Schiffer

That being said, what I don’t like about these books is that each one of them has the same message.  “Some people have 1 Mom, some people have two, some have 1 Dad and others have two”. Good message, but I want books that just happen to have two Dad’s and not always trying to drive home the same message at nauseum.

This has inspired me that maybe I need to write a few children’s books, if anything just so I can have them for our child.  Hmmm.. I either have to take an art class or find myself an illustrator.

After leaving the book store, I walked further along and made my way along Church street.  The air was thick with humidity and people were making their way into the bars and patios.  I reflected back on the time in my life where that is exactly where I would have been going on a night like this. My priorities have changed and I find myself becoming consumed with the thought of becoming a Dad. My mind was drifting to thoughts of our future baby and our life together, I was making mental lists of things we can do, trips to take as a family… really I was all over the map.  Just ahead of me I saw a stroller coming off a side street.  I’m more aware of these now a days.  I see a stroller and I note the model, type and functionality. Then I noticed the couple pushing the stroller were two Dad’s.

I’m not sure whether to blame it on my being tired, the heat or where my mind set was, but I felt a wave of emotion creeping up on me.  I could feel the tightening of my chest, the flush in my cheeks and then the tears.  Why was I crying?  I’ve seen couples out with their babies a million times, and it has never reduced me to tears.  Was it that I was better able to visualize my future?  I’m not sure what it was, but thank goodness for large dark sunglasses or people would have noticed.  I decided to sit under a nearby tree and regroup.  I’ll blame my lapse in emotional control on the heat, or maybe… something was just in my eye.  I saw my future, and it was beautiful.

Work Travel, Requires a PHD in Organization

I have been delinquent in creating new posts, but like many working professionals, I must travel for my job.  As we are travelling down the road to parenthood, I have been thinking about what will be needed for those times when I do have to travel.

The spooky plane I have to take from Toronto to London, Ontario
The spooky plane I have to take from Toronto to London, Ontario

In our household I tend to be the scheduler and appointment maker.  When the time comes, however, it will be R that will be taking the 37 weeks of parental leave.  Fortunately for us, both of our employers offer different levels of salary top up.  The downside is that we don’t get the full year off like birth mothers would.. but 37 weeks is enough time to figure out our work plans etc.

For my non Canadian readers; in Canada, mothers who have completed at least six months of work with a company are eligible for a 17-week maternity leave after her pregnancy. Following the maternity leave period, both parents can share the remaining 37 weeks of parental leave, with job security. You then receive Employment Insurance during this time, and some companies will top up your salary during this period.

Canada’s Generous Maternity Leave

I just got back from a week of travel, and I’ve had some time to reflect on how this occasional travel will work for us.

Our house.. thankfully this spring is paving the driveway and front landscaping
Our house.. thankfully this spring is paving the driveway and front landscaping

Fortunately R’s position does not require him to travel at all, so he will always be home.  I found some helpful hints for when parents have to travel for work.  Routine is going to be key, and effectively using Facetime or Skype will also be a must when I am away.

Luckily R and I are both listers (he won’t let me leave the house without a grocery list).

In the meantime I’m going to cruise Pinterest for some great organizational tips for working parents!