We are in the midst of writing our Dear Birth Mom letter, sorting through photos and all of the other things you do to create the “right package”. While doing so, I have come to realize that this letter.. this package.. these photos are going to be the most important part of this process. It is the piece that tells the birth mothers that we are the parents they are looking for.
I’ve been drafting outlines for the information to include in our letter. The most difficult task has been determining “what is important?”. We have heard of parents being picked because they had a dog.. I’ve got 4 (but do we include that or do we sound like animal hoarders).
Do we communicate that I know every word to nearly every Disney song? Can recite The Sound of Music from beginning to end? Or how about that I successfully completed the babysitting course at the age of 12 1/2 and had a lucrative career as a babysitter through my teens? That shows I’m responsible right, and that I know what I’m doing? 🙂
Knowing that you are developing a letter that can change your life forever, and result in the family you have always wanted… is daunting to say the least!
My approach is going to be to just be us. Communicate that our house is full of laughter and love every day. We will support our child to make sound decisions, and turn missteps into learning opportunities. Encourage exploration, to be bold and for our child to know each and every day that they are special and loved more than anything.
The positive thing about the letter, is that it causes you to evaluate yourself. It encourages you to reflect on what is important for a child, and think about your experiences as a kid. But most importantly it makes you excited to become a parent! I can’t wait to be part of the parent club and in the wise words of Ariel…
“When’s it my turn?
Wouldn’t I love, love to explore that shore up above?…
Wish I could be
Part of that world”